For my blog this week I thought I would write about my big impending move. My girlfriend has completed her training in l’art de pattiserie and now she is letting us move back to California so I can be reunited with my beloved Go-Go Babyz Family. I moved out here to support her and be with her and now she is doing the same for me. That is one of the keys to a healthy relationship, giving up some of your things to support them. I will touch more on that later but for now I want to talk about the stress of moving. Forget the forced introspective moments; do I need to keep this? Do I really want that still? The biggest pain of moving is the stress. Will it all fit in our car and trailer? Eating poorly or scarcely because you don’t want leftover food to pack up adds to it. Finishing errands and finalizing paperwork, utility accounts, budgeting the moving expense, gas, food, it can drive you crazy. I personally would rather burn it all at this point and just drive out with my lady and our dog. That brings me to another dread, 4 days of 10 hour legs with a dog in the car!!! Normally my Girlfriend always manages to make the trips amazing. Camping out in national forests or parks, awesome diners we saw on the food network, must see landmarks but this time we are just running and gunning for California as fast as we can drag the trailer. This means the trip itself is going to suck, it’s going to drag us down, as Admiral Akbar would say…. “IT’S A TRAP!!” Without the fun of the trip, it’s like a second terror of the move.
These stressful times can cause strain on a relationship. The little things that would normally get brushed aside are now blown out of proportion. With all the things that need to get done, the little daily annoyances can seem like they are a fist fight in a bar room. It’s important to try and take a step back and realize that it’s just the situation driving you crazy and not each other. If we are moving across country for the sake of my job then certainly I can suck it up if she flies off the handle stepping over half packed boxes while wading through the living room. I’m sure that I am driving her up a wall with my half speed packing. It’s these trying times that help us grow as a couple. If we can put up with all this and survive being stuck in a car for 40 hours straight then it will all be ok! I could honestly only imagine doing all this with children. I have learned so much working at Go-Go Babyz and every trying moment I can only think to myself, how the hell am I going to make this work when we have kids?!?! Doogie is a handful and I tend to just zone out and drive, ignoring others so I can only imagine how much my girlfriend is looking forward to this. But she is willing to do it for me. With her training she can work in just about any city and she is willing to come back to San Jose so I can further my career.
In the end it’s not about how much you care for each other but what you are willing to do to make life better for each other. We don’t spend a lot on each other but we sure spend on Doogie! It’s all about realizing that the crap moments are nothing when compared to how great the rest of them are. I don’t like my dog and girlfriend going through all of this and being cramped in the car for the trip but I love them more because they are willing to do it for me! (Well Doogie doesn’t have a choice but you know what I mean) So think about this the next time you are stressed out from lack of sleep from a newborn, or office stress, or moving, they put up with you and all your shit and in the end they are what you love to come home to.