Gratitude, gratitude, gratitude. With Thanksgiving coming everywhere you look it’s gratitude. On TV, in the news, social media, etc. Don’t get me wrong, It’s a great topic and an even better principle. I guess I just get tired of seeing it come and go once a year. Gratitude, to me, is something that should be practiced daily, year round. Of course it is a good thing to discuss and teach your kids during this time of year but my philosophy is that children should be raised to be grateful human beings.
What exactly does that mean and how is it done? I guess that’s the big question and I don’t really have an answer, just my opinion and what I try to do with my kids; live in gratitude and behave like a grateful person. I believe gratitude is more than just being thankful and expressing thanks. I believe it is a state of mind and being an accepting our life and the people in it while being appreciative for the life we have. To do that and truly be grateful is to demonstrate that through our behavior and how we conduct ourselves through good times and bad. It is one thing to simply say thank you and another to live in gratitude. Actions speak louder than words so it is not what we say but what we do that truly illustrates if we are grateful. The test is to ask myself “are my actions those of a grateful person?”
That is how I teach my kids about gratitude. Of course with kids you need to first discuss it and teach them what it means but you instill the concept and raise grateful kids by acting in a way that shows you are grateful yourself, reinforcing the lesson. As I am sure all you parents know, kids do more of what we do, not what we say. As hard as it can be at times, I must always remember that the greatest teachings from me are going to come from my own behavior that reinforces the lessons I try to teach them with words. These lessons are the ones that will have the greatest impact on their development as human beings and citizens of the world.
Go-Go Babyz can be very trying at times. Running a small business is not an easy task and there good times and tough times when it can be hard to find any reason to be grateful. But what kind of teacher am I if all I do is complain during the rough times? I have to remember that their eyes and ears are always on me when they are around whether I think they are or not. So I need to be aware and remember to show my appreciation for Go-Go Babyz and how lucky I am to have the opportunity to be part of a family business even if things aren’t going my way.
So for me, gratitude in an attitude; a perspective based on a principle that needs to be practiced. Practice is an action word so the best way I can raise grateful kids is to act in a way that tells them I am grateful and in turn shows them how to be a grateful person. For me it takes practice. I am not perfect and don’t act right all the time but I know if I can practice on keeping my perspective good, the right actions will come and before I know it, I have a couple of truly grateful kids.
VP & Dad
Halloween has come and gone again and that means before you know it we will all be gathered in front of a tree opening gifts with our kids. Time seems to go by faster and faster every year. I hope everyone had a fun and safe Halloween last week and that your dental visits didn’t increase due to all the candy. Candy is funny. I like candy sometimes as do my kids but at Halloween you would think that my kids have never seen or eaten a piece of candy and that it’s some sort of rare, high valued currency. It’s all about how much candy they can get. As soon as we get home from trick-or-treating the bags are quickly emptied on the floor and they start sorting them all to see what and how much they got. Then they quickly move in to the trading phase. I guess they first need to see what they have to work with before they just start trading.
I remember doing the same thing. I separated everything into piles then further sorted them by creating the discard pile of all the candy I didn’t like and the mine, mine, and all mine pile with everything I wasn’t about to offer up for any sort of trade. Unless, of course, someone was lucky enough to get the king of candy currency, the full-sized Butterfinger! Anyway, I would eat a few (or twenty) and hide it away. I would eat some here and there the next few days and then it just sat. And sat, and sat. My kids do that too. They are more excited about getting the candy, and as much of it as possible, than actually eating it. So it appears the fun is in the trick-or-treating and comparing the loot. I guess I shouldn’t complain about that; less dental bills and kids hopped up on the S.
We can’t forget about the dressing up part of it either. That’s the rest of the fun. It’s the one time of year that everyone, kids and adults, can dress as crazy as they want. Or can they? There seems to be so many restrictions at Halloween functions at schools and such these days that it can tend to take the fun out of it. Nothing too scary or gory. Your costume can’t have this or that. Etc, etc, etc. I mean Halloween is supposed to be scary right? I get it, especially at school, there are younger kids that might get scared or some things are just not age appropriate but let the kids have fun and don’t go overboard with the restrictions. It’s one day a year.
VP & Dad
Kids are adorable sources of endless amusement, so much so that a long running television show chronicled the “darnedest things” they’re wont to say. They’re also, however, notorious for saying the most embarrassingly inappropriate things at just the right moment for peak mortification. These are some of the more common themes explored by kids at the top of their lungs, made all the more embarrassing by their penchant for discussing them in public.
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Shhhhhh! Don’t say that! Kids sure do say the darnedest things. They truly speak their mind. Good article on what kids say in public. Can you relate?
VP & Dad
In the San Jose Mercury News Sunday paper on 7/7/13 there was an article that caught my attention; “Too Little Too Soon.” In her article discusses the topic of bikinis and young girls. This grabbed me right off the bat as my daughter is eight and trying to keep her wearing age appropriate clothing, swim suits included, is a challenge. My daughter has had two bikinis over the last couple years and I have not been okay with either of them. The swim suits were both purchased as gifts and I have let the gift giver know, respectfully, that I do not think a bikini is appropriate for a girl my daughter’s age and to please refrain from purchasing one for her. Maybe I am a little opinionated because I am a father and that’s my little girl, but the bottom line is I am not okay with it. I just do not understand why young girls in elementary school need to wear skimpy swim suits and why apparel designers even make bikinis for such a young age group is beyond me.
The article is a great read and provides insightful information about the psychological development of young girls. It also discusses the effect on body image and self-esteem as influenced by the median and how we as parents discuss these issues with our daughters. I found the article very helpful and enlightening. I definitely do not want my 8-year old wearing a skimpy bikini but at the same time I do not want to foster any negative body image or self-esteem issues either.
Read the article and I would love to hear your comments, opinions and experience with any of the related topics.
Happy Swim Suit Shopping,
VP & Dad
By Kevin Thompson – Backup Care
When it comes to parenting, there are almost as many incorrect myths and pieces of bad advice as there are scientifically sound facts passed around. From the moment you announce your impending addition to the family, you’ll be inundated with unsolicited advice of questionable veracity. These ten developmental facts, however, are among those that you should arm yourself with so that you are prepared and well informed about your little one’s growth.
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Very interesting article on child development. It is definitely a good read and gets you thinking. Some items may be controversial and open up the window for a variety of opinions. I know from raising children that you can get 10 different answers from 10 different parents who were all asked the same question. Can anyone relate? The last point is my favorite and I agree 100%. I don’t know what Kerry and I would have done if we didn’t have the help of family and friends.
Take a moment and read the entire article and I would love to hear your comments and opinions. Feel free to stat a discussion here or on the original.
VP & Dad
By Michelle LaRowe – eNannySource
The summer months are a time for relaxation and play—as well as an opportunity for exploration and learning in unexpected ways! I recently chatted with Dr. Rebecca Palacios, a teacher from Corpus Christi, Texas who holds a PhD in Curriculum and Instruction, to discuss the importance of summer learning. Dr. Palacios is a National Board Certified Teacher and a Founding Director for the National Board for Professional Teaching Standards (NBPTS), as well as Senior Curriculum Advisor for the award-winning early education site ABCmouse.com.
In our conversation, Dr. Palacios shared a few ways parents can encourage their children to continue learning in the summer while giving them a chance to follow their natural curiosities and interests.
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This is a great article full of information and ideas to keep kids learning over summer break. This has always been a struggle in our house and a lot of that falls on me. I have to remember that I have to be consistent and participate in the program. It is so easy for me to fall in to the laid back summertime routine and forget to follow through with the “summer program” the family discussed at the end of the school year.
Have a read and enjoy. Please chime in with any comments and share what works for your family.
VP & Dad
Written by: Sandra McAubre from Hire A Nanny
When classes end for the season and the days begin to get longer, even families that live quite far from the ocean’s edge begin to plan beach vacations. Fun in the sun and sand sounds like the perfect recipe for summer fun, but as with most other things in life, considerations change when you put kids into the mix. Before you pack up your brood for a few days at the shore, these are a few of the things you’ll want to consider.
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Great post by Sandra McAubre from Hire A Nanny. Very important and helpful information. i know I sometimes overlook the basics.